So we're at a bbq yesterday, and the mum in law is in a funny mood, and i have no idea why. The other half goes to have a chat inside and they kick off with a row. Mum in law has been 'living' here for about 7 months now, but hasnt been back since yesterday.

I dont know what it was all about. Me and the missus had a talk today, about the kids, me, her and so on, and M-i-L came up in conversation suggesting that i dont have enough interaction with the kids. I dont know, maybe i dont? Maybe i dont know how to interact with a pair of teenagers? hmmmm...

i think this was partly spurned by the fact that the kids have had a week off, and done nothing around the house at all. On wednesday, i told them that the PC would not be available to them because they haven't bothered helping around the house and that all that they have done is make mess. I left it thursday, but when i got home thursday, plates, cups, bottles, glasses everywhere, washing up piled up, clothes washing bin emptied across the kitchen and so on... so i disabled their login's from the pc.

Friday evening, and mrs. put the pc on for them on her login, but for strictly 10 minutes only. M-i-L later asked why their logins had been removed, and i explained why. She then put the pc on for the kids. Great! why should i bother trying to let them learn that every action has a reaction??

Its got me thinking though, maybe it really is me? maybe its my fault that mrs argues with her family? maybe its my fault that the kids would rather throw their shit on the floor, instead of in the bin thats 2 feet away? Maybe the family unit, which sometimes i feel shut away from, would operate far better without me?

Or maybe i'm just not capable/ready to cope with irresponsible teens?

Mrs + kids have gone out to visit her sister. I chose not to go, saying i just wanted to chill for a bit, but really, i wanted to run a few things through my own mind. To be honest, i haven't really drawn any conclusions.

Maybe i should go back to a single life where i have no responsibilities to anyone else. It could be that i'm just selfish?

I did look thru whsmiths trying to find a copy of the book 'fitting in and coping with a ready made family with teenagers for dummies' but it would appear that no-one has written it yet.